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Coordinating schedules. Divvying up holidays. Shuffling kids between houses. Sharing child custody isn’t always easy, especially when you’re trying to agree with someone you couldn’t stand being married to. The good news: “Studies show that shared-custody situations work best when both parents are cooperative, respectful, agree on shared custody, and manage their emotions,” says JoAnne Pedro-Carroll, Ph.D., clinical psychologist and author of Putting Children First: Proven Parenting Strategies to Help Children Thrive Through Divorce. “These qualities make it more likely that parents will help their children adjust to family changes.” We asked our experts for their best rules for making shared child custody work for you, your ex, and your kids. 

Rule #1: Speak no evil.

Expert after expert (most of whom were divorced themselves) repeated this: Don’t speak poorly about your ex. “Badmouthing the ex will be internalized by the child because they are made up of both you and your ex,” says David Pisarra, fathers’ rights attorney at MensFamilyLaw.com and author of A Man’s Guide To Child Custody. “What you say about the ex is what the child will react to, and also think about themselves.” Even though you may be pissed at your ex, your child still loves him or her as a parent. Regardless of your feelings about your ex – justified or not – keep them to yourself.

Rule #2: It’s not about you.

The divorce was about you, but custody is about the kids. “Divorce causes emotional tunnel vision and people get so focused on their own hurts and needs that they lose sight of the goal of creating a good childhood,” Pisarra says. Custody is not about getting exactly what you want, or even demanding equity at any cost. “The hardest part for co-parents is remembering that time with the child is not a prize to be won, but a gift to be cherished,” Pisarra says. Shared custody works best when both parents set aside their ego and realize that what is best for the child is not always what feels good for you as a parent.

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Video – What Happens in a Basic Divorce ?

Published on 23 January 2014 by in blog

If you’re like many people and have a child and a home to split up, this is an overview video to help you understand what the lawyers need to know to help you get through your divorce and child custody dispute as quickly and cleanly as possible.

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Video – What is a Complex Divorce Situation

Published on 23 January 2014 by in blog

This video explains the basics of what to expect if you have multiple children, some assets and a marriage of long duration.

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When you need to know what a Domestic Violence Restraining Order is, you need to know NOW. This video will explain the basics of what a Domestic Violence Restraining Order is, how it works, and how to protect your rights as a father to see your children when you’ve been wrongly accused of Domestic Violence.

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Whether you want to be called Dad, Pop, or Old Man, you want your child in your life, and you need to know who to protect your child custody rights – this video shows you where to start. Father’s have child custody rights, but they have to be willing to fight for those rights

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This video explains what is basically needed for a father to get 50% custody of his children in a divorce or child custody case. There are strategies to use, and actions to be taken – learn them!

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This video explains the basic procedure for fathers who want to increase their visitation and parenting time with their children. Los Angeles based child custody attorney, David Pisarra explains the Request For Order procedure to ask the court for more time with your child.

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Video – How To File For Divorce in California

Published on 22 January 2014 by in blog

This short video gives a quick overview of the divorce process in California by Los Angeles Divorce and Child Custody lawyer David Pisarra.

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Video – Child Custody Factors For Fathers

Published on 22 January 2014 by in blog

This video explains the big factors that fathers need to know in a child custody case to maximize their parenting time with their children. David Pisarra is a child custody lawyer in Southern California who practices in Los Angeles county, Ventura and Orange counties as well as throughout the state of California.

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Child custody cases are hard enough when both parents are sane and stable, but if one of them has a personality disorder like Narcissistic Personality Disorder or Borderline Personality Disorder – the hard case becomes a nightmare. If you don’t know the difference between a narcissistic personality disorder, borderline personality disorder and a manic depressive (bi-polar) personality this video will help explain.

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