Studies show that there is a time in your life that it statistically better to get married so that you have the least chance of facing a divorce. The thinkin gos hat you wnat to be mature enough to recognize a good spouse partner and not so set in your ways that you can’t adapt to the rigors of a new relationship. 

From my perpetual robe of seeing hundreds of divorces over the years. The biggest issue is unrealistic expectations by either or both parties. Maybe there’s an age to help this but in general I think it’s more about education and maturity, but MOSTLY it’s about communication and having conversations prior to, and the man DURING the marriage to adapt and compromise. 

Divorce is more of a symptom than a cause and the cause is more out of lack of communication and concern in most cases. The cheating spouse is usually doing so for a reason. The shutdown spouse is doing so for a reason. The frigid spouse is doing so for a reason. 

If people talked more. Honestly and openly, the divorce rate would not be 70% of first marriages. It’s a lesson that they learn and then practice on their second and third marriages which have a 50% and 40 % chance of ending in divorce. 

But check out this article from Time.com on divorce rates and see when the prime time to marry is to reduce the divorce risk. 

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As if you needed another reason to learn how to protect yourself and your important personal assets. This case out of Chicago will remind you that buying tickets and box seats with community funds can cost you. 
This poor guy bought tickets and the the Cubs made it to the series and now he has to buy his soon to be ex a ticket as well. 
http://www.espn.com/mlb/story/_/id/17913586/chicago-cubs-fan-petitions-world-series-ticket-divorce-proceedings

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NEVER, NEVER, NEVER, PAY IN CASH. SEE MY CHILD SUPPORT VIDEO HERE WHERE I’M INTERVIEWED BY RJ JARAMILLO FROM WWW.SINGLEDAD.COM ON THE ISSUE.


CASH PAYMENTS TO THE EX-WIFE

Never. NEVER. NEVERNEVERNEVER pay in cash. This seems like the easiest way for you to pay your child support and make it easy on her and easy on you, particularly if you are self-employed and work in cash business. You will view it as “I’m doing my job, I’m providing for my kids. It’s what the court ordered and I’m doing it.”  True, True, True and True.

You are also setting yourself up to get royally reamed.

Child support obligations never, never, never go away. Unless you can prove you’ve paid them. I’ll repeat that.

CHILD SUPPORT OBLIGATIONS NEVER, NEVER, NEVER GO AWAY. UNLESS YOU CAN PROVE YOU’VE PAID THEM.

Many a man has come to me saying he paid his support every week or month in cash to his ex, but he just got served with a demand for 15 years of back child support. I ask him if he has proof he paid it, he says he paid her in cash. He’s in deep hot water.

No Proof equals “you didn’t pay it.”


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THREE THINGS MEN SHOULD DO IN A DIVORCE

Published on 19 January 2011 by in blog, Uncategorized

There are three things a man should do when faced with a divorce:

1) Go through the house and inventory of all the “stuff”. – You don’t want it, but you need to know what it is worth.

2) Never leave the kids until you have an agreement in place to see them regularly, that you are happy with.

EXCEPTION: If it’s an abusive or explosive situation – give SERIOUS CONSIDERATION to getting a restraining order against her. It will prove HUGELY BENEFICIAL TO YOU IN THE CUSTODY BATTLE. ( And trust me on this one, she wouldn’t think twice about getting one against you.) My book A MAN’S GUIDE TO CHILD CUSTODY goes into detail on this issue – download it here. You should probably also download my book A MAN’S GUIDE TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, she’ll use false claims of Domestic Violence against you to get custody of the children – no really, she will. Download it here now.

3) Self-love. Don’t be hard on yourself, it’s not all your fault. She had a part in this relationship too. Hit the gym, do some self-reflection either with a 12 step program, therapist or a self-help support group.

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