Yes it is. The questions to be asked though are why and how much?

Parental alienation is the interference with the parent child relationship by a former spouse or partner. It can be mild moderate or severe.

In most breakups there is some resentment and hurt that “leaks” from the parent into the child about their ex. Usually it dissipates and people move on.

In some cases it is worse and needs to be addressed with compare ting classes and some therapy.

And in a few cases it is so severe that extreme measures to u do the damage are necessary. Those involve reunification therapy for the alienated parent and child. A change in physical custody away from the alienating parent and strong judicial oversight.

It is important to have good legal and psychological counsel through the child custody phase of a divorce or paternity case to address these issues and determine the best path forward.

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Minor’s counsel are appointed by the court to represent a minor in a child custody case, Los Angeles Child Custody Expert David Pisarra explains the ins and outs with this video.

Do you want to know what a Minor’s Counsel is and how it can help you in a child custody case? My name is David Pisarra, I’m with Mensfamilylaw.com. We represent fathers in child custody cases all the time. Sometimes we have to have what’s called minor’s counsel appointed. A minor’s counsel is a lawyer appointed by the judge specifically to represent the child’s interest. So that they’re job is to go in and investigate, the meet with the child and the represent the child’s best interests in court. Not necessarily in favor of mom not necessarily in favor of dad. They are there to tell the judge what the child wants. Sometimes that’s easier than others. Oftentimes it’s easier with a teenager than a three year old. Because three year olds are not very verbal.
But the minor’s counsel’s role is to go into court and explain to the judge as sort of a third party whose job is to be in theory objective but at the same time represent the child’s interest. Minor’s counsels are appointed by the judge although sometimes they are paid for by the county most of the times these days they are paid for by the parties. The judge will make one party pay most of the minor’s counsel fee or all of the minor’s counsel fee, depending on the financial circumstances of the parties. then at time of trial the court depending on what the minor’s counsel says, can do what’s called apportionment. they can apportion, they can divide the fees and whose responsible, so that maybe dad has to, and usually does, has to front the money for the minor’s counsel, at time of trial the judge might come back and say well minor’s counsel found actually in favor of dad so he has to pay all of it or the minor’s counsel might come back and say both parents are good parents we should have a 50/50 custody split and the judge will look at it and split the fees because mom’s working and dad’s working. there are all kinds of factors involved in figuring out whose going to actually pay for minor’s counsel but the reality is a judge is going to look at it and say, who can afford it, and then how can they split it if possible. I hope you find that helpful, please feel free to give me a call, check out our website and remember a cheeseburger and a chocolate shake will get you through just about everything.

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As a sad example of how things escalate in domestic relations when there is Domestic abuse happening, this couple ended up with the husband dead and the wife facing prison.

He had a “man cave” and installed a porn channel. She had previously cancelled the channel twice. That’s an example of controlling behavior he should have seen as a red flag warning of increasing domestic abuse and potentially domestic violence.

On the third time he subscribed to the channel she found out and confronted him with a gun about it.

Now he’s dead.

Pay attention to those relationship red flags. I had a friend who was killed by her husband which was shocking but not surprising because they had a very contentious relationship. Both were volatile and now she’s dead and he’s in prison.

RIP DONIE VANITZIAN.

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What Is a Wage Garnishment? explained by Los Angeles Child Custody Attorney David Pisarra in a short video that kills the legalese and tells you what a garnishment is AND why it’s good for you as a father who’s having his wages taken from him.

Do you want to know what a Wage Garnishment is and why it’s good for you? My name is David Pisarra I’m with MensFamilyLaw.com and we represent men and fathers who have gone to court and they’ve had child support awards issued against them. What then happens is mom asks that a wage garnishment be put on dad’s employment, your employment. Oftentimes men look at that and thinks it’s a bad thing. That’s its going to be an embarrassment that it’s humiliating, that’s it’s not good for their employment, that their employer is going to look down on them. there’s all kinds of reasons, but the reality is a wage garnishment is actually probably your best friend when it comes to child support and here’s why. Somebody else is responsible for making sure that the payments get paid to mom so that she can’t come back in 2 years or five years or ten years and say you never paid it. There’s going to be a record, your employer is going to have a record, it has to be paid to a government agency they’re going to keep records, although their records are pretty shaky, you’re better off having the employer’s records because they’re going to keep track of it, and you won’t have to. that’s why a wage garnishment is actually a good thing for you and you should be happy to have one. I hope that helps if you’ve got other questions please feel free to give me a call or check out our website, MensFamilyLaw.com and remember a cheeseburger and a chocolate shake will get you through just about everything.

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The list of events and places to visit is long in this world. There is more to do with your kids than the movies and Chuck E. Cheese and this website helps dad find things to do that are not stupidly expensive but are still wholesome and fun and educational.

Dads are often given only a little time in their divorce and child custody cases. Most paternity cases allow dad to have every other weekend and a Wednesday night pizza dinner.

By having more and better options you make the most of your parenting time and relationship with your children.

Check out this website for ideas in the Los Angeles Area

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An 8year old has been taken from his mothers home and put in government care because his mom was filling his head with”hateful feelings” for his father.

The father is likely to get custody since he will foster a healthy relationship with the mother.

That begs the question of why the boy wasn’t directly given to the dad, and put in foster care instead. Small steps I guess.

Article here.

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What Is a Co-Parenting Class? Los Angeles Child Custody Attorney David Pisarra Explains

Are you wondering what a co-parenting class is? Let me help you out here. My name is David Pisarra, I’m with MensFamilyLaw.com. We represent fathers who go into court on a regular basis to try and get more custody with their children. Usually when that’s the situation mother and father are not doing well in their communication style. So frequently a judge will order the parents to what is called Co-Parenting classes. Usually it’s a six to 10 week program offered by a psychotherapist sometimes it’s a psychologist and what it’s designed to do is to help you guys with your communication skills so that you can learn how to communicate about the child, not necessarily about all the bad things you did to each other in your relationship. The goal is to get rid of the anger and to put it beyond you so that you can actually focus on the best interest of the child which is what the judge really wants more than anything and that’s what everybody wants. So a co-parenting class is just a six maybe a ten week program usually it’s done in a group setting of three to five other couples and the therapist facilitates it and you go through some workbooks and you go through some exercises to get you guys to learn how to communicate with each other in a way that is actually beneficial to the child. Why do I tell you all this? Because I answer questions like this all the time. Please feel free to check out our website, watch the other videos, read my books and if you still have questions feel free to give me a call. And remember a cheeseburger and a chocolate shake will get you through just about everything.

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What Is Court Ordered Mediation? Explained by Los Angeles Child Custody Lawyer David Pisarra. Once a paternity or divorce case been filed, if one party wants to get a court order for child custody and visitation, they must file a Request for Orders, which will then trigger an automatic conciliation court date. That’s a meeting at the court with a social worker who tries to negotiate a settlement between the parents.

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Can My Ex Not Let Me See My Kids If I’m Not Paying Support? Los Angeles Child Custody Lawyer David Pisarra explains that Support and Visitation are SEPARATE issues. The ex should not be withholding visits over money you owe.

Are you wondering if your ex can withhold visitation because you’re behind in your child support? Let me help you with that question. My name is David Pisarra, I’m with MensFamilyLaw.com. the short answer is No. Because Child Custody and Child Support are in theory separate issues that are not supposed to infringe on each other.

Your ex cannot withhold your court ordered visitation if you are behind in your child support. Doesn’t matter if you’re behind a day, a week, five years. the point is that you have a court order that says you are supposed to see your child on whatever the days are. that is a court order that she must abide by. That’s a separate issue from whether or not you’re supposed to be paying child support. IF you’re supposed to be paying child support, whether or not you’ve had a loss of your job, a drop in your income is not relevant to whether or not you’re supposed to pay child support. If there’s a court order for you to pay X amount of dollars per month you must pay that. If you need to go in and have that changed because of you’ve suffered a drop in your income or the loss of a job, you have to go in and start doing that process, but that’s a separate issue from whether or not your ex can withhold your opportunity to have a relationship with your child. Why do I tell you all this? Because I answer questions like this on a regular basis. Please feel free to check out our website, read my blog, read my books, watch the other videos and if you still have questions, feel free to give me a call, I’m more than happy to talk to you. Take care and remember a cheeseburger and a chocolate shake will get you through just about everything.

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How Do I Estimate My Child Support? Los Angeles Child Custody Lawyer David Pisarra explains. When it comes to estimating a child support award there are three main factors, child custody and the incomes of the parents.

 

 

Hey are you trying to figure out what your child support is going to be?Let me give you some insight. My name is David Pisarra from Mensfamilylaw.com. The way in which child support is figured is three big factors. Your income, your ex’s income and how much time you spend with the child. Traditionally most men get every other weekend and a Wednesday night pizza dinner. It’s not right, it’s not wrong, but it is what is.

That works out to approximately 20% custodial time with your kids. Most men are not happy with that but it’s what we’re stuck with. If we take a look at that as sort of a base line number.Next up is her income. She’s probably going to try not to show a lot of income and keep it low. She’s probably going to be underemployed. Probably going to say she can’t get a real job. Probably going to say that she’s gotta raise the kids she can only work part time. Well that may or may not be true, depends on how old the children are, and how close they are to school and how close you are to school. The other big factor is your income. Now your income is probably gonna be the big number that we’re going to look at. For the most part if you’re a salaried employee we’re just kinda stuck with it. So, Take whatever your income is, figure with a 20% custodial share, which is every other weekend and a Wednesday night pizza dinner, you’re gonna be looking at about 25% of your GROSS paycheck is going to be your child support. That’s not including alimony. That’s not including a second child. If you’ve a second child that number is going to go up. Maybe it’s going to be 30% of your gross income.The way we try to bring those numbers back down is we try to get you more custodial time because the more time you have with your child, the lower you’re child support is going to be. That means that if we can get you a week on/week off 50%/50% your child support is going to drop to maybe 15% of what your gross income is going to be. But that also means that mom’s now got a greater availability to go find a job as her income comes up, your child support will go down. So these are all the variables that we play with. The general rule is that you’re going to get every other weekend, figure 25% of your gross paycheck is going to be your child support and with those kinda numbers thats sorta like a rule of thumb for you to make some estimates on what your child support is going to be. I hope that helped you if you’ve got other questions, please feel free to call me or check us out on the web at MensFamilyLaw.com. I answer questions all the time and remember a cheeseburger and a chocolate shake will get you through just about everything. Take Care

 

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