Prevent the “Missed Opportunity” with a Paper Trail
The “missed opportunity” is the tool of choice for the Alienating Parent. They will find all types of excuses to not show up, to have the child be somewhere else besides where they are supposed to be for a scheduled visit, and they will have a manufactured excuse as to what happened.
The Target Parent must prevent the Missed Opportunity by being overly clear and repetitive about what the plans are, so that the Alienating Parent has fewer and fewer escape routes.
Letters and emails should be faxed, emailed and posted with Return Receipt and/or delivery confirmation about every major and minor event. Every Holiday, school vacation or performance needs to be documented well in advance and clear statements about the Target Parent attending need to be made manifest.